Here is a link to an article prepared by PEAR: http://www.pear-now.org/IndependentAdoptionUnderHague.pdf

This is an excerpt:
“Independent adoptions (those where a placement agency is not utilized and the parents themselves arrange an adoption abroad) are expressly permitted under the IAA and Hague regulation Section 96.13. This comes as a surprise to many who assume that this will no longer be permitted under Hague Intercountry Adoption Act and regulations. The relevant regulation states “Prospective adoptive parent(s) acting on own behalf do not require accreditation, approval, or supervision to adopt” in a
convention country. They may adopt without the assistance of a US placement agency if the convention country’s laws and regulations allow it. An international adoption completely lacking agency involvement is not actually possible in any country since all parents wishing to adopt internationally must always obtain an agency approved home study under CIS rules.”

Learning About Adoption From a Child’s Perspective

Sally Maslansky
Sally Maslanksy, MA, MFT is a Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice.

Posted: April 20, 2010 08:50 AM

In their beautiful book Everyday Blessings, The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting, Myla and Jon Kabat-Zinn suggest we could learn a great deal from trying to imagine the world from our child’s point of view (p.384). To this end, I would like you to imagine what the world might look like from the point of view of a 6 or 7 year old orphan.

Imagine what the world looks and feels like to a child taken from his mother at the age of 1 or 2. Imagine that no one has really prepared him in any way for this transition and there is no one he knows there to help comfort him during this process. Imagine a little deeper if you can at the impact of any possible abuse, neglect and drug or alcohol exposure.

Now imagine this child being taken to an orphanage full of strangers. Imagine the repercussions of spending the next 4 or 5 years in that orphanage. Having worked in an Eastern European orphanage, I can assure you that it is not a place in any way that promotes loving growth and development.

Children in orphanages have few opportunities to grow and develop in a healthy way. They have little if any consistent one-on-one loving attention. They often do not even have their own beds much less bedtime stories and rituals such as being tucked in, bath time, bubble baths or rubber duckies. They don’t grow up in a house with a kitchen to watch mom cook dinner, help set the table or share in the important ritual of family meal times. They rarely have their own set of clothes or shoes — and certainly few if any that fit properly. No special stuffed animal, no blankie, no family photos or albums, no special books with their names in them. Children in orphanages do not have the attention, love and nurturing so vital to healthy development. And this is all under the best of circumstances. This is assuming there is no abuse. Neglect is the nature of growing up in an orphanage.

Now imagine that one day a complete stranger arrives at the orphanage. She speaks a language the child has never heard. She spends a week or two with the child and then takes him from the orphanage to a plane and they take a long journey to a strange place with nothing that looks, sounds, feels, tastes or smells familiar. And she begins calling him a name he has never heard before.

More than likely in the entire 7 years of this child’s life, no one has attempted to help him make any sense of all that has happened to him. What is expected though is for him to be happy, well adjusted, loving, affectionate, well behaved and perhaps even a little grateful. No one anywhere seems to have any understanding what is really going on in his inner world, and no one is able to understand the feelings of sadness, despair, hopelessness, loneliness or anger he may have.

Now, switching gears slightly, imagine you are the woman arriving at the orphanage to adopt this child. Most likely no one has given you much if any of this child’s relevant history. No one has educated you about how early childhood development can be severely compromised by the kind of neglect, deprivation and emotional upheaval in this child’s life. No one has advised you on what may be necessary to understand the experience of this child or to prepare you to be the parent of this child. There are most likely no follow-ups on how the adoption is going, no post-adoption support, no community awareness of the difficulties that may arise, and certainly no consequences for adoption agencies and orphanages who have in any way misrepresented the physical or mental health of the child you have made this long journey to adopt.

I believe that the recent situation of a mom in Tennessee returning her adopted child to Russia is the result of a complete failure of the adoption process both in the US and abroad. A 7-year-old child allegedly threatening violence and drawing pictures of his house being engulfed in flames are the desperate actions of a child begging for help. A mom putting her 7 year old child on a plane, alone with no support or explanation, and having a stranger pick him up on the other end only to take him back to an orphanage is also, I believe, a very desperate act.

If any thing positive can come of this recent tragic incident, let’s hope it is to begin a global open, honest, informed and collaborative conversation about the meaning, process, reality, needs and expectations of adoption. Adoption is an amazing and rewarding way to have a family. It is how I started mine and nothing has brought me more joy and happiness. Adoption does take a great deal more than love and the desire to parent a child. Adoption truly does take a village – and a well-informed, open minded, accessible, educated village to be sure.

For more from this author, go to the Huffington Post at:

 http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sally-maslansky/learning-about-adoption-f_b_541791.html

The Eastern European Sibling Registry was created and is maintained by an adoptive mom to help connect siblings adopted seperately into US and other families. To register or get more information, email the administrator of the network at mom2russians@yahoo.com

Great Parenting Paradigm

If you have not yet heard of ³Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control², known as BCLC, it is parenting towards a new alternative to behavior modification and understanding why consequences are ineffective. It is a wonderful paradigm for parenting adopted children with issues, from minor to extreme. It is love based.

The message board, stories and support are incredible.

It¹s worth a look for anyone with an adopted child who most likely has some trauma, or might have some trauma as the years progress.

Daily reflections sent are incredibly inspirational.

The website is:
http://www.beyondconsequences.com

AND join the group on yahoo and learn so much more.
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/DailyParentingReflections/



US urges Russia to lift adoptions ban

A group of US lawmakers is urging Russian President Dmitry Medvedev to lift the freeze on child adoptions by American citizens – particularly for applications already being processed.

The letter was signed by five senators and 12 House members.
The temporary ban was put in place after an American woman sent a then-7-year-old Russian boy she had adopted back to Moscow earlier this month. She sent him alone, on a transatlantic flight, with a note saying she no longer wanted him.

This latest case followed several incidents in which Russian children adopted by American families were abused or even killed.

Moscow insists adoptions should be regulated by a new agreement between Russia and the US – which is expected to be discussed by an American delegation arriving in Moscow next week.

US and Russia discuss ways to lift adoption freeze

Published 29 April, 2010, 13:15

Edited 08 May, 2010, 02:54

US and Russian delegations have held the first round of talks aimed at working out a legal document ensuring the safety of Russian children adopted by American parents.

Both parties described the talks as productive.

“We have been heard. Our point of view is understood and accepted by the American side. Today we spoke one and the same language. We understand both sides: Russian children and American families who want to adopt Russian children. We try to work for the benefit of both sides. I hope we could finalize this process as soon as possible, signing a bilateral agreement between our countries,” said Russian Commissioner for Children’s Rights Pavel Astakhov.

Duma rejects immediate foreign adoption freeze

7.05.2010, 16:29

The Russian lawmakers have voted down an opposition motion for Prime Minister Putin to suspend the adoption of Russian orphans by families in the United States. They ruled there should be appropriate amendments to the Family Code first. The adoption issue gained urgency after tragic incidents in which Russian-born adoptees died at the hands of their American foster parents.

Sunday, April 25, 2010  WASHINGTON POST ARTICLE

By Darshak Sanghavi

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Adopted Boy’s Return Highlights Problems in Russian Orphanages

“I no longer wish to parent this child.”

When 7-year-old Justin Hansen, whose name used to be Artyom Savelyev, was sent back to his native Russia this month with that note from his American adoptive mother, much of the ensuing criticism focused on the U.S. side of the matter. Some said that Justin’s adoptive parents were not equipped to care for an allegedly disturbed and violent child and that they had failed to seek proper professional help. Others blamed the questionable practices of some U.S. adoption agencies.

But there is no doubt that families adopting children from Russia face unique challenges. In particular, Russian orphans suffer from psychological disorders at much higher rates than do orphans in many other countries. Last year, sociologists reported in the journal Pediatrics that Russian and eastern European adoptees were three to seven times more likely to have mental problems than Chinese and Korean adoptees. Philip Cohen, one of the study’s authors, speculated to me that this might be because of high rates of fetal alcohol syndrome in former Eastern Bloc nations.

Yet at least some of the blame for the children’s problems must be placed on flawed child-rearing practices common in Russian orphanages. These facilities offer a time capsule of a medicalized approach to child-rearing that was popular in the Unites States decades ago, before the critical importance of children’s attachment to their caregivers was widely recognized and before we realized how damaging orphanages can be.

My colleague Richard Moriarty, a pediatrician and expert on international adoptions, recently traveled to an orphanage in Russia’s Pskov province, where he witnessed an odd scene. More than a dozen infants wrapped tightly in blankets were lined up in cribs, observed by staff members through a series of glass windows. The room was uncomfortably warm and eerily silent, since none of the babies bothered to make any effort at vocalization. Occasionally, Moriarty told me, the infants were taken out for walks in strollers, but even then each was positioned to face away from the person pushing him. Staff members almost never held or cuddled the babies. “They didn’t want the kids to get attached to people,” Moriarty recalled. The problem wasn’t that the children were neglected: They were kept fastidiously clean and were well groomed and well fed. The problem was that they were bereft of normal human contact.

Charles Nelson, a professor at Harvard Medical School who has studied and worked closely with Romanian orphanages for more than a decade, told me that although the caregivers he encountered there were well-meaning, they “raised kids in a way that was devoid of any affect.” And Lisa Albers, a pediatrician at Children’s Hospital Boston who studies international adoption, said that “Russian child welfare is still wedded to the medical model” — meaning that it focuses on nutrition and cleanliness, not nurturing.

Russian orphans don’t typically suffer from a deficit of medical care: If anything, physicians tend to overdiagnose them with dozens of labels, such as intestinal dysbacteriosis, pyramidal insufficiency and spastic tetraparesis, which have no meaning to my American colleagues (who, upon examining the children, often find them to be healthy).

All this would sound very familiar to observers of institutionalized children in the United States in the first half of the 20th century. Worried about the risk of infection, hospitals prohibited parents from visiting their ill children for more than one hour a week, and infants received minimal handling. In 1910, for example, homesick kids who cried too much at Massachusetts General Hospital were moved into isolation wards.

This approach wasn’t limited to hospitals; it went to the heart of beliefs about child development in the early decades of the last century. At that time, an accidental alliance — pediatricians trying to reduce infections and psychologists warning about overdependence — encouraged parents and other caregivers to treat kids just as today’s Russian orphanages do.

As Deborah Blum has written in “Love at Goon Park,” her history of psychologist Harry Harlow’s work on infant development, parenting books from the 1920s discouraged mothers from hugging children (the head of the American Psychological Association went so far as to recommend only one kiss per year). Parents magazine praised a psychologist whose books, according to Blum, foresaw “a baby farm where hundreds of infants could be taken away from their parents and raised according to scientific principles.”

But soon thereafter, things began to change. The psychoanalyst Rene Spitz produced sensationalist, disturbing movies of infants growing up in what amounted to solitary confinement in New York orphanages. Chicago pediatrician Joseph Brennemann discovered that babies sometimes died of what could only be called loneliness.

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In Britain, the psychologist John Bowlby published his theory of infant attachment, which argued that a strong, affectionate tie to a caregiver is essential to a child’s mental health and development. And in Wisconsin, Harlow performed a series of cruel but dramatic experiments showing that lonely baby monkeys would repeatedly return to a lifeless doll he called the “iron maiden” for affection, even when the device was rigged to stab them or hurl them away or blast them with compressed air. Children, it became clear, desperately needed parental attachments for healthy development.

Source: Courtesy of Harlow Center for Biological Psychology, University of Wisconsin

With these ideas gaining traction, Congress in 1961 created a federally funded foster-care program that shifted kids out of orphanages and into family homes. By 1965, only 4 percent of American orphans remained in institutions.

But attachment theory did not influence child welfare programs in the Soviet Union and the Eastern Bloc. And so, while Americans and western Europeans largely abandoned institutional care for orphans, Russians continued relying on it. At the time of a 1998 Human Rights Watch report, hundreds of thousands of children were committed to orphanages in Russia, while only several hundred lived in family-size foster-care settings.

Of course, many factors contribute to the plight of Russian orphans, including inadequate family-planning resources, underfunding of child welfare services and widespread alcoholism. And a culture of adoption has never taken off in Russia: Of an estimated 800,000 Russian orphans today, only about 15,000 are adopted each year, half of them by foreigners.

Child-development experts have long believed that foster care is better than orphanage care, but until recently, the data were lacking. Then in 2007, Charles Nelson, the Harvard professor working in Romania, published in Science the results of a groundbreaking study in which 136 infants were placed either in foster care or orphanages. Foster care produced significantly higher IQ scores, and the younger the child at the time of placement, the bigger the difference. “Institutional care is bad for kids,” Nelson told me. “The fact is that institutional care always does worse than family care.” (This may be one reason that adoptees from South Korea, which has a well developed foster-care system, have fewer mental disabilities than Russian adoptees.)

Washing, feeding and dressing needy children, it turns out, is the easy part. What child welfare institutions in Russia and other parts of the former Soviet Union still need help with is providing environments that nurture strong, loving attachments between children and their caregivers. As history shows, that’s a lesson that can take a long time to learn.

But recently, the glacial pace of transition to family-based care has thawed. Kemlin Furley, UNICEF’s deputy representative to Russia, sees increasing commitment from top officials to the principle that, as she said, “kids should be in families.” She points to President Dmitry Medvedev’s creation of a program that has promoted foster care in provinces such as Perm. As a result of these changes, tens of thousands of children have moved to foster care in the past few years.

Femmie Juffer, a Dutch sociologist who has reviewed studies involving hundreds of thousands of adoptees, told me that, across cultures, “pre-adoption adversity” predicts later behavior problems. Perhaps some good may yet come from young Justin Hansen’s story, if it highlights the adversity faced by many Russian orphans who have never known a family’s love.

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Darshak Sanghavi, the chief of pediatric cardiology at the University of Massachusetts medical school, is Slate’s health-care columnist and a contributing editor at Parents.

Poland Adoption Hope Page

Featured Agency:  Huminska’s Anioly, or ‘Poland’s Angels’


The Scoop: Children available from Poland are between 1 and 17 years of age as single children and in sibling groups of 2, 3 or 4 children. The children are referred to families through the Polish Central Authority based on the needs of the children and approval of the prospective adoptive parents.

Time Frames
From the time your dossier is approved in Poland the referral process time depends upon the age and number of children you wish to adopt.

Eligible Applicants
Eligible applicants are married couples and single women. There should be no more than about 40 years between the age of the child and that of the parents. There are no religious restrictions.

Travel
All prospective adoptive parents must travel to Poland. In most cases it is a two trip process: first first trip is about 17 days, the second trip is 7-10 days to obtain the children’s passports and visas. Because the adoption is lawful 21 days after the adoption hearing, the adoptive parents typically return home for about 4 weeks between the two trips.

Fees for an Adoption from Poland
The fees for an adoption from Poland are for the process. Huminska’s Anioly does not believe in paying per child and is strongly supported on this issue by the Polish Adoption Authorities. The total fee of $26,000 includes home study and US CIS fees, application and agency fees and all international fees. The fees remain the same whether you are adopting 1 child or a sibling group of 2, 3 or 4 children.

Travel expenses vary with the time of the year you must travel. Living expenses vary depended upon where you must stay in Poland based on your children’s location and approval by adoption authorities.

About Huminkska’s Anioly   

           
Huminska’s Anioly is Polish for Huminski’s Angels and has well over 1100 “Polish angels” home with their new American Parents since 1989.This Hague Accredited Agency can not only assist with Polish Adoptions, but also provide pre and post adoption support, as well as encouragement and assistance with maintaining the children’s Polish heritage through their Polish Adoptive Parents’ Association Chapters. (Currently in 16 areas of the United States). There are “Mom’s Groups” being established in various parts of the United States to help with post adoption issues. They also work with the Children’s Foundation of Hope to provide for those children living in Poland. Huminska’s Anioly conduct seminars and workshops on many different aspects of adoption, foster care, health and developmental issues for those professionals working and caring for the children in the orphanages of Poland. In the best interest of those seeking to adopt children from Poland, Huminksa’s Anioly have collaborated with specific adoption agencies throughout the United States. These agencies not only provide home study and post adoption report services, they are professional social workers who can assist with post adoption issues and referrals to appropriate local facilities as needed.

How Did Huminka’s Anioly get their start?

Mimi Huminski. This adoptive mom came home with her first of 2 Polish children in 1989 and has been dedicated to the orphans in Poland and Americans who wish to adopt Polish children ever since. Over these many years, Huminska’s Anioly was begun, became a Pennsylvania State Licensed Adoption Agency, became the first American Agency accredited by the Ministry of Labor and Social Policy in Poland and in 2008 became a Hague Accredited Adoption Agency.

‘Huminska’s Anioly could have begun to assist with adoptions from many other countires, but it is our mission to work only with Poland. We can therefore, provide the best possible services to our families and dedicate our work to the children in Poland.’

Polish Adoptive Parent’s Association, or PAPA

Do you have more questions regarding Polish adoptions? Are you looking for families in your area that have adopted or are in the process? Looking some advice or just need to talk with someone? The Polish Adoptive Parents Association (“PAPA”) is here to help. PAPA is a network of families throughout the United States that have either adopted from Poland or are in the process of adopting.  

HUMINSKA’S ANIOLY WEBSITE:  AdoptionsPolish.com.

For More Information on Polish Adoption and  Poland Agencies,

visit AdoptionHarmony.com.

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News Breaking Story:  Russian Adoptive Child Returned on 1-Way Flight

Seven-year-old Artyom, adopted some six months ago and renamed Justin, flew to Moscow on April 8. His adoptive mother sent him with a backpack and a strong message to the Russian Ministry of Education.  Tory Hansen’s letter indicated she did not want to parent this child any longer because he was psychotic.  Ms. Hansen accused the orphanage of lying to her about the boy’s conditions.  She has not been charged with any illegal actions for not following the proper channels to disrupt her adoption.  Russia is outraged at her bold retaliatory actions after they granted her parentshhip.  The issue of U.S. couples adopting Russian children has become controversial in Russia in recent years, following the deaths of two children in separate incidents in the U.S. state of Virginia.

April 20, 2010

Russian Adoptions Offically Still Open-But Slowed Down

April 19, 2010

De Jure Suspension on Russian Adoptions:  Postponed or Permanent? US Dept of State

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Russia Offically Suspends ALL US Adoptions

 
April 13, 2010

 The Int’l Adoption Scandal-Driver’s Blog, Interview and Video

 
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